It seems that everywhere I go, I hear the phrase, “you are the average of the five people you hang out with most”. It’s very common among entrepreneurs, especially. I absolutely agree with this sentiment. The people that surround you greatly influence who you are as a person.
However, many people hear this advice and take a narrow view of it. They are thinking about one aspect of their life, maybe starting a business/side hustle, maybe building their frugality muscle. The immediate thought is, “I need to find five friends to hang out with that are phenomenal at that!”
The problem is, focusing on just one specific area of our lives and forgetting everything else is detrimental to my goal of being happy. I also want to be emotionally intelligent. I want to have adventures. I want to be around people that expand my sense of humor. The list goes on and if I spent all of my time with people that only ticked the box of being super frugal, I don’t think I’d be fulfilled.
So how is one supposed to take action on this advice? Well, first, don’t ditch the friends that make you happy in pursuit of success in one area. Of course, if a friend is a drain on you, doesn’t respect you, or is otherwise detrimental to your happiness, that’s a different story and you do need to move on. But go ahead and keep the good ones!
As for the area you are interested in improving, we live in an AMAZING time. We have more access to content through blogs, podcasts and online video than ever before. You don’t need to replace your five best friends, just replace the content that you consume. There are good people out there creating amazing podcasts, blogs, and videos, giving you the ability to hang out with them, virtually! Just surrounding yourself with content has the ability to shift your mindset and truly realize that your goals are achievable.
I want to share with you a few blogs and podcasts that I surround myself with that have created a shift in my thinking.
Online Business/Lifestyle Design
Real Estate Investing
Choosing your current priorities is important in this exercise.. I definitely have more interests than just those four areas.. In 5 years, perhaps I will have traded one of those for a cooking podcast or an exercise blog.. I still cook and exercise currently, but I don’t have the bandwidth to really dive deep into those areas, surround myself with them in order to truly progress in them..
I have chosen my priorities for now, in an effort to grow in those areas to a point that matches my goals for those areas.
So what areas of your life are you focusing on and what blogs, podcasts, and videos do you surround yourself with to help you shift your mindset in those areas?
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